Two becomes one…family that is!
Keeping the relationship alive! There’s something to keep the advice givers busy. The adjustment from just you and them, to you, them and a baby is a seismic shift.
Finding time for each other can be difficult when you’re knee deep in nappies, suffering sleep deprivation and getting to grips with parenthood. Arguments over who is getting most sleep prevail and it’s difficult to imagine life ever being the same again. The truth of it is that it won’t, life won’t ever be the same. You have become new people: parents!!
With time, possibly money and sleep all in short supply keeping a relationship on track can be pretty hard. It’s difficult to feel benevolently towards someone at 3am in the morning while you are trying to settle baby for the third time if your other half is peacefully snoring!
But this too shall pass, platitude though that might be it’s true, the baby won’t always be so time consuming and in the meantime try to keep the lines of communication open. Take deep breaths, try and let the little things go and when you think they are being unreasonable, tell them. Don’t seethe quietly and wait for them to guess what’s wrong!
And when you can get out together, just the two of you. Yes you will almost certainly spend the whole time away talking about how amazing your baby is but at least you’ll be able to have an uninterrupted adult conversation and remember why you wanted to become Mum and Dad in the first place!