Sleep like a baby…Pfffttt!
Everyone knows that sleep is a big deal when you have a baby, it’s a HUGE deal!
So what advice can we give to those new mums, or even those mums one month in, one year in, that find themselves on their knees with exhaustion?
This will pass, it won’t always be this hard, you will sleep again it will just take a bit of time to get there.
Give yourself a break, escaping for 2 weeks to Aruba sans child and with just a luxurious double bed will likely not be a sensible option. But you know what? Sack off the ironing, just shove stuff in the drawers or leave it in a pile and pull out what you need when you need it! Get a ready meal for tea, you don’t have to be Nigella tonight, she’s just got ham sandwiches in her new book so actually that might be doable!
Ask for help. Yes pre-baby you could multitask the hell out of your life, beautiful home…tick, aceing things at work…tick, slick of lipstick and looking fine…tick But managing all that stuff while 24hrs on red alert looking after baby? Pfffft bit tricky actually. So ask a friend to hold the baby and go and sit in your local coffee shop and enjoy a cappafrappelattecino on your own or lie down in a darkened room and sleep for a couple of hours. Ask your mum to come and make you soup for lunch and if you’re busy feeding baby maybe she can spoon it into your mouth for you.
And if you are at your wits end and no one is around to take the pressure off make sure baby is safe and just take a moment. Don’t feel guilty – it doesn’t mean you love that little bundle any less. It just means you need a second to gather yourself, take a deep breath and give yourself a hug, to acknowledge new babies can be hard and going without sleep is really, really hard and those moments will get longer, as will the hours that baby and consequently you sleep. And in time you’ll look back on these crazy sleep deprived hours where you felt completely taken over by loving and caring for your baby and you might even miss it a bit. Or at the very least look back with pride that you made it through.
Well done mumma. xx